Suzanne Stanard of Raleigh launched the pretty*swell blog in 2009 as a way to work through postpartum depression after the birth of her first daughter. Since then, it has evolved into a cozy place to chat about all sorts of things -- being a mom is still a prevalent topic, but you'll also find a healthy dose of fashion and design talk, a chronicle of Suzanne's weight-loss efforts, pictures of the people and things that make her happy, and more. There's even a link to Posy, an Etsy shop Suzanne and her sister started last year that offers quirky handmade items for the home. Through it all runs a thread of humor and humility that makes the site a delight to read.
So let's meet Suzanne, who's pretty swell herself.
Q. Tell us a little about yourself, and about your family.
A. Im in total denial about this, but I turn 37 in just a couple of weeks. Ouch. I feel like it was just yesterday that I graduated college, got a job and officially became a grownup. But the reality is Ive been married for almost eight years, and my first baby is now 4 1/2. Our second daughter was born last year, and I have to say the three-year age gap is just about perfect.
Happy chaos are the best words to describe our life. On any given day, Sophie is squawking and Lily needs our attention right this very minute. We have a lot of fun together although its certainly stressful and Marc and I work hard on a team approach to parenting.
My goal in life? To pee by myself. Dream big, right?
Q. Why did you decide to start the pretty*swell blog?
A. After Lily was born in 2008, I dove head-first into postpartum depression and anxiety. Part of my recovery from that experience was reading. I discovered dooce.com, and the rest is history. I felt such a strong pull to share my PPD story, connect with other moms and put something out into the universe that might make a difference.
The blog also gives me a chance to do what I love: write and take pictures. Its changed a lot since I first hit publish three years ago and has evolved into a completely eclectic lifestyle blog. I talk about weight loss (Ive dropped 40 pounds since December), baby thighs, food, you name it. I still write about depression and serve as a resource to moms in need, but I also want to focus on the fun stuff like Oscar fashion and bacon.
Q. How has writing the blog helped you work through postpartum depression?
A. It opened the door to a world I never knew existed! Ive connected with so many moms online and become part of a wonderful community. People who dont blog might think its weird, but these people are real. They played a huge role in my recovery and also helped me avoid PPD the second time around.
Q. Design and fashion figure strongly on your blog -- you take pictures of your outfits on "What I Wore (to work) Wednesdays" and you even have an Etsy shop linked from the main site! Tell us about the shop, and why style is such a big part of your life.
A. The truth? I love to look at pretty things. Design makes me happy, and Im a huge proponent of the handmade movement. I started Swell Stuff to showcase handmade goods, and Happiness Is to share the little things in life that make me smile, from a cupcake I just ate to a video that gave me goose bumps.
I started playing along with the What I Wore Wednesdays meme because I needed the motivation to quit wearing the exact same clothes to work every week. And to revel a little in the fact that for three days out of the week, I get to shed my mom uniform. I love fashion, but Im pretty bad at it. Trying different looks, posting them on the blog and getting feedback from my readers has really helped me step outside my comfort zone and not wear yoga pants all the time.
My sister and I started our Etsy shop, Posy, about a year ago, and were having a blast. We sell handmade goods like pillow covers, napkins and festive bunting for kids rooms, as well as unique vintage finds. Weve participated in a number of fun markets around the Triangle. Our favorite is Rock & Shop in Durham, because whats better than shopping to live music with a beer and a slice of food-truck pizza in your hand?
Q. Do you have any fashion tips for your fellow moms? How can we stay fashionable, yet functional?
A. Im a big believer in look good, feel good. As a mom, there are so many times I leave the house without having made any effort in my appearance because, in a way, it seems trivial. But it isnt! A little effort goes a long way, especially when it comes to my mental health. But that doesnt mean you wont spot me in town in running shorts and four-day-dirty hair.
Q. What's your favorite thing to do with the whole family in the Triangle?
A. We absolutely love Pullen Park, Marbles and the N.C. Museum of Natural Sciences. Weve also ventured out to Durham to visit the Museum of Life & Science, and that place is so neat. I also take the girls to the State Farmers Market so they can see where their food comes from (and maybe consider actually eating a vegetable that theyve picked out).
Q. What's your favorite thing around here to do when you get a few hours to yourself?
A. My dream day would involve lunch downtown at Pie Bird or the Raleigh Times, shopping at Epona & Oak and a movie.
Q. What's the best parenting trick you've picked up?
A. The warning system. As in, I need to tell my four-year-old several times that were about to leave, or eat dinner, or go potty, etc. Otherwise, she combusts. And its not pretty.
Q. What's the best advice someone has given you about being a mom?
A. Live through patience.
Q. What's your least favorite part and most favorite part of mommyhood?
A. Least favorite: The loss of self. Its just part of the deal, but its tough for me sometimes.
Most favorite: These two little human beings Ive helped bring into this world and love with every fiber of my being. Even on the days I want to hide in the bathroom. Seriously. Its overwhelmingly awesome.
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