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Does ‘mommy guilt’ ever fade for a working mom?

My last blog post was about how I often feel guilty because I feed my 7 month old formula and work full time. He is not exclusively breast fed despite my best and most honest efforts. I expressed guilt over the fact that I buy store bought baby food instead of making my own. I often wonder when I leave him for the day if he will remember me when I return. He and I share a bond at 2:3o am but what happens when other people are around? Does he know the difference between them and his mama? ...

Fostering a relationship between toddlers and dogs

I was a parent long before my husband and I met — to an 11-pound Maltese dog named Gus. I had always put off getting a dog — since I was single and worked insane hours, I didn't feel like it would be fair, or that I had time to train and raise a dog like I felt it should be. While I was staying with my parents before moving to Raleigh, my mom was really itching to get another Maltese. It had been about five years since the one we had since I was 12 passed away, and she was constantly ...

The heartache of being motherless on Mother’s Day

This time of the year is the hardest for me. It's not the anniversary of her death, not her birthday, but the month leading up to Mother's Day. Every commercial on TV or the radio telling what you should get her, where you can take her for lunch, what you can do for her. Every single advertisement is like a knife through the heart, a reminder that I can't do any of this for my mother. I'm all for appreciating and thanking your mom on a daily basis while you're able to, especially on ...

Congratulations GW!

I am so proud! My girl, DJ, has finally made her college decision.  Selfishly, I was hopeful she’d end up near home.  We have some great universities right here in the Triangle:  Duke, UNC, NC State.  Selfishly, I wanted her to end up at a public institution for obvious reasons, $$$. She narrowed it down to three:  UNC, Furman in Greenville, SC, and George Washington University in DC.  Three weeks ago she visited UNC, ate dinner with a friend and came back pumped.  I thought ...

What is a busy mom to do? Homemade vs Store bought baby food

Months before having my baby I knew. My child was going to be exclusively breastfed, I would make baby food every Sunday and he wasn't going to have an once of sugar until his first birthday. I knew this, but reality seemed to laugh at that noble idea. My son was born four weeks prematurely so in order to get him out of the Rex hospital NICU, I needed to feed him Enfamil 22 calorie formula & they fed him sugar water in his first few hours. If you add in the fact that I had a ...

On the go!

Last Thursday night DJ and I headed out for our last college tour. It was accepted students' day at George Washington University in DC. We left Raleigh at 5 PM. Stephanie fussed as I walked out the door, "Dad, you're NEVER home!  You're gone all the time!" I reminded her that she was the one who spent four days the week before on a school sponsored Outward Bound trip and that it was also she who had plans both Friday and Saturday nights for the weekend that was before us.  That didn't ...

Believe it

The other day my youngest child said something that I can’t get out of my mind. I was putting her to bed, we were having our normal nightly conversation:  reviewing the school day, the schedule for the week, homework, the usual.  And then, she sort of quietly said, “Sometimes I look at you, and I just can’t believe you’re my father.” I said, “What do you mean by that?  Do you mean that in a good way?” I was hopeful she meant, I just CAN’T BE-LIEVE you’re my ...

Beach trip & some much needed ‘ME’ time

This weekend was another first for my son and I. Jake is a little over six months old and I have not spent a night away from him, well not until this past weekend. My girlfriend has a little girl that is almost two years old and she invited me to Wrightsville beach. I knew she needed the break so I agreed to drive. Little did I know that I would get just as much, if not more out of the small vacation this trip provided. There is no question that my life has improved by leaps and bounds ...

The Deep Dark Rabbit Hole

From blogger Bruce Ham: I was listening to a podcast tonight.  A friend sent me the link four months ago.  It sort of got lost in my inbox. It was about a woman who had been through the same sort of tragedy as I.  Her husband died two and a half years ago. She said some really good stuff. She talked about the fact that she was a perky, positive, happy person before her husband passed away.  The interviewer asked her if she lost that.  She said, “No.  I have it.  I just ...