I am sorry for the loss of your twins. I wish there was a magic cure for infertility. It is the most frustrating thing I've ever been through.

For me, persistence paid off. It took four miscarriages, a failed IUI, three rounds of clomid, $1300 in unused fertility drugs and almost six years for me to have two babies all on my own.

Throughout all of the frustration, I found it helpful to talk about what was happening. Whether it was with my doctor, husband or a forum, like this, with other people who have gone through the same experiences. They're just words but sometimes the best comfort is to know you're not going through this alone.

Here are some links that could help:

General info on IVF:
WebMD

An inspiring story from The N&O archives:
Katrina baby

My reproductive endocrinologist's website is also a good resource:
Carolina Conceptions

As for your miscarriage, has your doctor identified a specific reason? Has he/she given you a reason why you can no longer conceive on your own?

The good news is doctors don't know everything. I'm proof of that. Good luck with the transfer this week. Keep us posted on how it goes.

I conceived through IVF at Carolina conceptions on our first try!!!. Grace Couchman (Amazing Grace) was our doc and did our transfer. Awesome care from her and all the staff. It had been a long haul prior to that, so good luck. At least you are past the Clomicidal mood swings! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!

I'm at Carolina Conceptions, too. She did my FET this morning, and I'm feeling pretty good. This could be the time it works.

I don't have a reason why I miscarried or why my tubes are scarred (the cause of my ectopic and current infertility). When I had the miscarriage, my reproductive history was totally clean, so it was written off as "one of those things, a fluke, we'll probably never know why." That lack of knowing why things are happening (and the doctors' seeming lack of any desire to find out) has been the most frustrating thing about this experience.

I was diagnosed with PCOS last year, and went to the Duke Fertility Clinic, and I was one of the lucky ones that got pregnant with Clomid only. However, I just wanted to recommend them for anyone, the care was excellent and they were extremely knowledgeable.

Not knowing is definitely the hard part of infertility. I wish my doctors had found something wrong so they could fix it.

How are you feeling? When can you test? Are you scheduled to have your beta done?

Hopefully this is your month!

I'm feeling really good, thanks for asking. My beta is scheduled for June 5, but I am not at all patient. I've been testing for days (in all fairness, my husband eggs me on).

At the moment, it looks like I'm pregnant. Chalk up another victory for "Amazing Grace!"

(but I feel the need to add that it's reeeaaaally early. I'm not sure I'll actually believe this pregnancy will end in a baby until I'm in the delivery room).

How did your test go?  I felt the same way with my second son. I didn't believe it was going to happen until he was born. I went to labor and delivery so many times to have him checked out that the nurse told me I could wallpaper a room with my discharge papers. I hope all is well!! 

It went great! My beta was really good, and I get to have an ultrasound next week. I'm hoping that will put to rest my fears of another ectopic.

That's wonderful!

I am glad the beta went well and that they're doing the ultrasound. You will feel better once you see the little bean on the screen. I am sure everything is fine!

How are you feeling?

Keep us posted!

Hey there, Anonmom. See The Infertility Treadmill I just posted. Hope it helps.