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Eight Under Eight
I think it's time to admit that I’m old. It’s possible I’ve actually been old for a while. Now before you jump all over me for saying this at 32, (Yes, I am still young enough to freely acknowledge my age.) you should understand that I don’t mean “old” in the sense that normal people mean old. I mean I’ve reached my childhood definition of old, and then some.
What caused this revelation? I was at my sister’s house not too long ago when she turned to me and said, “Wow. Eight under eight.” She was referring, of course, to the mass quantity of children running circles around us. Though in truth only one was literally running in circles, it was still hard to miss her point.
Just eight short years ago, I was practically a newlywed. There was not, as far as I knew, a whole generation of people thinking I was old. My first hint that things were changing should have been about five years ago. I was taking a walk through our neighborhood, pushing my son in his stroller. Two kids on bikes came around the corner and I heard one say to the other, “Look out for that lady.” I looked around to see about whom they were speaking because I was a young woman with a baby. I was not “that lady.” I decided that I must have looked like someone else from the back.
Besides the fact that eight kids will age just about anyone, what was it that affected me about that number? It was my part of it. For the longest time, “mom of four” was a title that made me think of my own mother. Now I’ve caught up to her. And it happened rather suddenly because of my twins. When I went from having two kids to four all at once, it’s as if I skipped a step in the whole process of growing older, which really shouldn’t be allowed. (Of course, N.C. birth records will tell you that I did actually have three kids for 10 whole minutes, but I assure you I was in no state to appreciate it at the time.)
So here I am fully ensconced in the adult bracket. I drive a minivan, I turn my head when anyone anywhere says “mom,” and loading my kids into the car takes just as long (if not longer) than loading my groceries. But the most surprising thing is that I don’t care. It’s kind of funny to remember a time when I dreaded being “old.” But what’s really funny is that my sister and I have created all these little people who think we’re old and they think our younger sister is the oldest of all just because she’s the tallest. And she might still be young enough to care.
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Comments
I just realized a few years ago that the coaches I had in high school, who I considered old, were actually in their early to mid 20s at the time. No more than six or seven years older than me.
I really feel old when somebody calls me ma'am. In fact, I hate it when I'm called ma'am. I'm not from the south so it wasn't a term I grew up with or was taught to call people. Ma'ams were always elderly people. And at 34 I'm not close to that (though my back during pregnancy seems to indicate I'm getting closer).
Ditto on the "ma'am" comment. I grew up in New Jersey. I don't teach my children to call anyone ma'am, but the natives here expect to be called that.
Perception of age has changed a lot over the years. When I was a kid, my mom was the oldest mom of all my friends' moms, because she had me at age 29. I'm 33 and due in August with my 3rd child, and I have several friends the same age or older who have yet to have children and that seems to be more of the norm these days.
Great post! When I was started working at 21 years old, I vividly remember me telling a friend that everyone over 35 years was really old. OUCH!
Here....let me put my bifocals on so I can get these arthritic hands to type a response...I'll be 47 on Tuesday. I could technically be a grandmother if I had started earlier.
If it is any comfort...although right now you feel like watching kids run in circles makes you feel old, try watching your daughter DRIVE in circles around a parking lot with her Dad now that she is getting her permit!!! I'm sure this process is going to age me more than any other phase.
Maybe I should be looking for someone to color my hair...it's bound to go gray during the next year!