Celebrating  Christmas with our 6 year old son. Since we have had our son, John, we have had a hard time making the holiday happy for son. We alternate spending Thanksgiving and Christmas Day. We do one in Raleigh with his Grandmother and the other with his Uncle Ken, my brother who lives inVirginia. When we spend Christmas with his Grandmother, most of the time she has no Christmas tree or decorations and she gets him clothes which is nice but being a kid he got upset. Last year we did Christmas at Grandma's house, it felt likwe she did not want to do it there.She had no tree or decorations. We were all suppose to bring food. My brother mike and ken( his girlfriend ) all brought food. Plus my sister in law and her new baby brought food. We all ate dinner except grandma and my sister in law. They did not even come to the table. John did not get upset this year about getting clothes because we told him that grandma's like to do and we got a couple toys from dollar tree to make up for it. We did not find out until that night that grandma and my sister in law were holding back their presents until her other son came home, so grandma gave him one present and held the rest until later. So when we went to my sister in law's house a week later, they only had clothes while everybody else had a bunch more presents. John got really upset. We do not want to spoil him but do not know how to tell he can not always expect to get toys as presents. Would like to know how other parents cope with several relatives wanting us to celebrate with them.