I fully buy into Christmas being about giving.
As a kid, Christmas presents were a big, big deal. My parents went over the top with Santa followed by gifts from them. In addition, my brother and I were the only grandchildren on both sides of the family. They ensured that any potential gaps in our want list were fully covered.
My parents also didn’t buy us anything the other 11 months of the year. December not only brought in the toys we desired, but it also stocked us up on socks and underwear for the year, a leisure suit for church and shoes.
In November, we looked like we’d just stepped out of the play Oliver Twist. Our pants too short, and we had holes in our drawers. January 1, it appeared as if Daddy Warbucks was kin. We were looking great again!
But now, I have the ability to buy what I need, when I need it. I’m not rich, but if my tennis shoes are worn, I pretty much have the capacity to replace them winter, spring, summer or fall. Thus, this time of year has shifted for me. Unlike my youthful self I am appreciative, but unmotivated by what awaits me under the tree. A coffee cup with my kid’s art on the side is more exciting to me than a Brooks Brothers’ suit. It’s all about maturity and perspective.
I do, however, really, really want others to appreciate what I have chosen for them. And it saddens me to think of those who aren’t able to celebrate the holiday with the same vigor as we do.
For years I have adopted a family from the YMCA’s Angel Tree. Our organization works to help bring Christmas to thousands of underserved kids who participate in our programs. With my busy work schedule and the play I’m in with the girls, I became overwhelmed this year. I was stretched in so many directions. Therefore, I made the choice to give money to my church for those in need rather than to take a name off the tree and go on a shopping spree for a specific child.
That decision hasn’t ruined the season for me, but I’ll have to say that I regret simply giving a check. I truly miss the excitement of picking out cool stuff for someone specific. Each year, the girls and I would get so excited about a cool pair of jeans and a hat for our unknown three-year-old boy. Finding the Thomas the Train playset he requested filled my cup. With no boys in my house, I was pumped to pick out little dude tennis shoes and boy toys.
I took the easy way out this year. I checked the ”helping others’ box” on my Christmas list with absolutely no effort on my part. And it is just not the same.
Certainly the money I give will be helpful, maybe more so. But there is a difference in giving to fulfill a quota and being fully invested in the process.
I give checks to several nonprofits throughout the year understanding that they must have my support to do their work and don’t bat an eye. But at Christmas, I feel compelled to do more. I won’t make this choice next year.